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WebMD: "Overcontrolling" moms/dads cause social/emotional damage in kids

June 18, 2018, WebMD: How 'Helicopter' Parenting Impedes a Child's Development https://www.webmd.com/parenting/news/20180618/how-helicopter-parenting-impedes-a-childs-development#1 Overcontrolling moms and dads -- so-called "helicopter" parents -- can stunt their children's emotional development, new research warns. Directing every move a toddler makes may undermine a child's ability to manage their emotions and behavior on their own, explained Nicole Perry, lead author of a new study. "We found that overcontrolling parenting at age 2 was associated with poorer emotional and behavioral regulation at age 5," said Perry, a postdoctoral fellow with the University of Minnesota Institute of Child Development. At age 10, this parenting approach also was tied to more child-reported emotional and school problems, fewer teacher-reported social skills, and less teacher-reported academic productivity, she added. Parents play a critical role in helping their children learn to manage their emotions and behavior independently, Perry said. Children need a sensitive parent to help guide them through "emotionally taxing situations." At other times, the parent may need to hold back. Dr. Bruce Chabner explains how clinical trials pave the way for new treatments and the benefits of participating in one. … While the researchers only found an association, rather than a cause-and-effect link, they determined that 2-year-olds exposed to this kind of parenting ended up less able to regulate their own emotions and behavior by age 5. That upped the risk for emotional problems at age 10. On the other hand, better emotional regulation at age 5 led to fewer emotional problems by age 10. It also led to better impulse control, better social skills and better academic performance. Jean Twenge, a professor of psychology at San Diego State University, said helicopter parenting seems to be increasingly prevalent. Twenge, who wasn't involved with the study, suggested it may explain why today's teens often seem unprepared for the challenges of approaching adulthood.